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Practical tools for autism parents, caregivers, and families. Some free guides open right on the site. The downloadable ones just need your email, and you get my weekly letter, The Quiet Fight, with them. All paid products are processed through Stripe.
“I always worried about my students when they graduated, what would happen to them, especially if they didn't have parents that support them or didn't know how to support them.”
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📄 He's Not Being Picky. The Table Is Too Much.
Holiday meals with an autistic kid: 5 things that make the meal work, what to tell Grandma, and the free Holiday Plate Plan.
📄 A Tantrum Wants Something. A Meltdown Wants Out.
How to tell a tantrum from a meltdown, 4 things to do in the moment, and the free Sensory-Friendly Outing Planner.
📄 He's Not Cold. He's Processing.
When your autistic kid doesn't react to big news: signs the reaction is coming, and 5 things to do when it shows up.
📄 Prepare for an IEP Meeting
A step-by-step guide for parents heading into their first or next IEP meeting.
📄 Does This Sound Like Your Kid?
A one-page checklist for when you are wondering how autism and ADHD show up together. Not a diagnosis, a starting point.
📄 Paycheck Reality Check
One page, one paycheck: see where your money actually goes, with your last pay stub in front of you.
📄 Five Things I Wish Someone Told Me
A web booklet for parents early in their journey.
Free Printables
📦 Meeting Priorities Quick Planner
Printable one-page worksheet — open, print, and fill in by hand.
📦 Student Strengths and Preferences Profile
Printable one-page worksheet — open, print, and fill in by hand.
📦 School Communication Log
Printable one-page worksheet — open, print, and fill in by hand.
📦 Family Records Index
Printable one-page worksheet — open, print, and fill in by hand.
📦 Weekly Family Reset
Printable one-page worksheet — open, print, and fill in by hand.
📦 Sensory-Friendly Outing Planner
Printable one-page worksheet — open, print, and fill in by hand.
📦 Holiday Plate Plan
Printable one-page worksheet — open, print, and fill in by hand.
📦 Support Trial Observation Sheet
Printable one-page worksheet — open, print, and fill in by hand.
📦 Student Voice Conversation Cards
Printable one-page worksheet — open, print, and fill in by hand.
Advocate Membership
Members-only guides for life outside the school building, all six IEP guides included, Chris AI (20 messages a day), and a direct line to ask me questions.
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What you get
✔ Members-only guides — the If I'm Not Here Tomorrow workbook, building your kid's village, scripts for people who don't get it, and more
✔ All six IEP guides included — a $29 bundle, yours free
✔ Chris AI: 20 messages a day, 4x the free limit
✔ Ask Chris — send your questions; I answer the best ones for members every month
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“What you are doing is much needed in the community. Caregivers, parents and guardians need support from other parents who understand the challenges they face every day.”
Family Kits
Printable tools for everyday life at home and out in the world. Free with membership.
📖 Meltdown & Transition Kit
Printable tools for meltdowns and hard transitions: what to do in the moment, how to prep for changes, and how to recover after.
4 pages · PDF · Instant download
📖 Holiday Survival Kit
A printable plan for getting through the holidays with your autistic kid, plus a handout for grandparents and relatives.
8 pages · PDF · Instant download
📖 Words for the People Who Don't Get It
Script cards with plain-language answers for family, strangers, and staff who don't understand autism.
8 pages · PDF · Instant download
IEP Advocacy Guides
Federal IDEA baseline edition — covers federal law; check your state rules for additional protections.
📖 IEP Meeting Playbook
15-page step-by-step guide for walking into any IEP meeting prepared and confident.
15 pages · PDF · Instant download
📖 Meeting Day Quick Cards
8-page printable reference cards — rights reminders, question prompts, and red-flag checklist for the table.
8 pages · PDF · Instant download
📖 Paper Trail Template Library
18 pages of ready-to-send letter templates for requests, follow-ups, and dispute documentation.
18 pages · PDF · Instant download
📖 Progress & Service Tracker
19-page tracking system for IEP goals, service delivery, and missed-session documentation.
19 pages · PDF · Instant download
📖 Behavior & Discipline Response Guide
19-page guide covering discipline protections, manifestation determinations, and what to do after an incident.
19 pages · PDF · Instant download
📖 Transition to Adulthood Roadmap
13-page planning guide for post-secondary transition — timelines, agency contacts, and decision checklists.
13 pages · PDF · Instant download
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Member Sign InAI Disclosure: These resources were created with AI assistance and reviewed for accuracy against current federal IDEA regulations.
Scope: All advocacy guides cover the federal IDEA Part B baseline. State laws may provide additional protections or different timelines — always check your state’s rules.
Not Legal Advice: These are educational resources, not legal advice. For individualized guidance, consult a qualified advocate or attorney in your jurisdiction.
License: Purchased files are licensed for personal household use. You may print and annotate copies for your own family. Redistribution, resale, or organizational copying requires separate permission.