The Quiet Fight · An Autism Journeyman's Notebook

Some of the most amazing times I've had with Jared were spent in a room together, playing old-school video games.

Donkey Kong was one of them.

At first, he would just watch me play. Then he started playing himself, learning the controls and figuring out how to get through the game.

When he reached a difficult spot, he would ask me to help him finish that level.

And I would.

That's a memory I hold close: being there together, sharing something I enjoyed, and watching it become something he enjoyed too.

There's something special about watching your child learn a game you've played for years. You get to see that progression firsthand. First they're watching. Then they're trying. Then they're getting farther on their own.

You're still there when they need a hand.

Jared still plays those ol' skool games today.

And honestly? I think he's better than me now.

The boy who used to ask Dad to finish the level might be the one Dad needs to ask for help.

That makes me smile. I'm proud of him.

As parents, we spend a lot of time thinking about what we need to teach our children. But there's value in making room to enjoy something together, too. To see what catches their attention. To let them try, and to be available when they ask for help.

For us, some of that happened with Donkey Kong.

For your family, it might be music, drawing, cooking, or something your child can't wait to show you.

If they're inviting you into something they love, spend a little time there. You may end up remembering those moments for years.

I know I do.

What's something you and your child love doing together?

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